Are we meant to be married to the same person for 50 years? My friend of 66 years has been married that long but her circumstances are somewhat unconventional. While she lives in the family home her husband lives in a wooden cabin in the woods that surround, the house. The reason for this is not coventional either. They see each other every day, they eat meals together, they have a joint bank account and neither wants a divorce. So why do they have this arrangement? why don't they just have separate bedrooms? Well the reason is my friend is incredibly untidy while her husband prefers a certain amount of order and minimilism. Did it really take 50 years to discover this? I don't think so. Had it been acceptable to live together 50 years ago then no doubt they would have discovered that they were incompatible. Or would they?
My father could play the piano. Not an unusual skill but he was deaf. He lost his hearing fighting in the army in India in the 30s so he was an adult when he lost it and therefore remembered tunes, even though he couldn't hear him. However he didn't have the skill to learn anything new so either you liked the old music or you didn't. He used to say that he played by ear and then would roar with laughter. He would have struggled in many ways with modern living but most of all during the pandemic, he would have lost his ability to communicate as he always lip read. There must be thousands of people like him today who still rely on reading lips to understand, in fact all of us do it to some extent, so please be patient if someone is struggling to communicate while you are wearing a mask. I went to the supermarket today and at the check out, the cashier asked me to move the trolley into a particular position. As I manoeuvred it ...
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